Creating Powerful Relationships

Dear Eve,
I saw that you are holding a workshop on Creating Powerful Relationships. I am interested but I’m not sure exactly what to expect. Is this workshop only for couples or people who are in a committed relationship? I have a teenage daughter that I would like to have a better relationship with, but I don’t want to be the only single one there who isn’t working on a partnership with a mate. Can you tell me more? What are you going to teach? Thanks.

Aloha,
I don’t know about you, but when I entered the realm of dating and relationships, I had no clue what I was doing. This included dating and romance, but it also included friendships, family dynamics and co-workers. I didn’t know what to do when a boyfriend cheated on me, or when a girlfriend stole money from me, or when I had to tell my dad a painful truth. I didn’t know what to do when a guy I really liked wanted more from me than I was ready to give. I didn’t know what to do when someone made me mad. I didn’t know what to do when I made someone else really mad. I certainly had no clue what to do when a child misbehaved and it was my responsibility to do something about it. I just wasn’t well equipped.

Relationships permeate every aspect of our lives and yet few of us were taught true relationship skills in school and most of us didn’t have families that knew the skills in the first place, so they couldn’t pass them on. Sure, we were probably told not to pick on each other, to share our toys and the importance of telling the truth. But few if any of us were taught about how our self-esteem impacts relationships, how our relationships impact our self-esteem, or how to pick potential partners. Nor were we taught how to overcome our egos, to stop playing the “blame game” or the “victim game.” We weren’t taught that what we think creates our feelings, not what other people think about us. We weren’t taught how to align our actions with our intentions. We weren’t taught how to look underneath anger to find the truth, and we weren’t taught to look underneath fear to find what we want to protect.

While most of us were trained to expect to get married and have kids when we grew up, certainly no one ever taught us how to deal with the dynamics of a mother/child or father/child relationship or how it might impact our relationship with our spouse. Nor were we taught that Prince Charming may just not show up on schedule and that we may actually have to do some looking around for the guy….nor what to do if he actually wasn’t always so charming after all. In fact, what were we supposed to do with the last princess he dated—the one with all his kids? We certainly weren’t taught that.

Point blank, few of us were ever taught the skills and tools needed to create powerful relationships. And by “powerful” I don’t mean power or control over someone else, I mean power over our selves, our choices, our actions and thoughts— the power to experience joy and happiness—sometimes because of our relationships, sometimes in spite of our relationships.

Consequently, I studied human relationships because I needed to fill in the gaps of what I didn’t already know. So, in the workshop, I’m going to teach you what I spent an immense amount of time and energy learning, trying, experimenting with, and using to transform my own relationships. The skills and tools will be immediately applicable to ANY relationship. I am sure it will assist you with your daughter, and in fact I encourage you to bring her with you as this experience will help her with you too…and could actually give her the tools she needs to create powerful relationships with all her friends and loved ones from this day forward. I hope to see you there!
With Aloha
Eve

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